Drop Perfectionism
When we try to do and make everything perfect, we increase our stress levels and our risk for developing depression and anxiety. Perfection isn’t possible for anyone, but especially for parents caring for children with additional needs. There’s just too much to do, and more can always be done. This holiday season, give yourself a break and let some things go.
Reflect on situations that are stressing you out and ask yourself these questions:
- Are there ways you can spend less time and energy on either those tasks or some other tasks?
- In what ways might you be trying to please your own high expectations or the expectations of other people?
- What is one way you can lower your expectations this holiday season?
- How can you practice self-compassion?
Dr. Todd and Kristin Evans are celebrating 22 years of marriage. They are award-winning authors, speakers, and parents of two children with complex needs. Their new book, How to Build a Thriving Marriage as You Care for Children with Disabilities will release in May 2024 by Baker Books. They both earned their MA in Christian Educational Ministries at Wheaton College in Illinois and have served together in full-time ministry in church, camping, and retreat settings. Todd received his PhD from Vanderbilt University’s School of Engineering and currently manages his own business, and Kristin earned her MSW from the University of Tennessee and is a Licensed Master Social Worker experienced in couples, child and family, substance abuse, and crisis counseling.
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